Jeremiah Nanai has opened up on the childhood pain that shaped his rise to the top of rugby league – revealing he has not seen or spoken to his mother since she walked out on him and his four brothers when he was just six years old.
The North Queensland Cowboys forward, who has represented Queensland and played international football for both Australia and Samoa, said the absence of his mother remains a reality he has simply had to accept.
‘Mum’s not in the picture, she left us at a young age. I was about six when she left, I haven’t seen my mum since then. It’s been a long time,’ Nanai told News Corp.
‘I haven’t even spoken to her since she left, I don’t really know where she is or what she is up to at the moment.
‘But you know, some things you have to move on from, and I have moved on past that all.’
While many NRL stars credit their mothers for driving them to training and cheering from the sidelines, Nanai’s journey was different.
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He admitted he once tried to track her down – not for himself, but for his youngest brother.
‘I did try to look for her, but it wasn’t for myself, it was for my little brother,’ Nanai said.
‘She left not long after he was born. It was pretty sad that he didn’t have a mother in his life.
‘He had started calling my aunties ‘mum’. That was pretty sad to see really. But that’s why I keep him close to me.
‘I at least had a mother until I was six years old and never saw her again but he didn’t grow up with a mother at all.
‘That was a long time ago now, I don’t even know if she’s alive or not.’
Twelve years after disappearing from his life, Nanai’s mother attempted to make contact – at the very moment his rugby league dream was becoming reality.
In 2021, after making his NRL debut for North Queensland, she reached out.
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‘Yeah, she reached out when I did make it [the NRL], she contacted my partner,’ Nanai said.
‘But my partner said for her to keep away. Respect to my partner for doing that. But that was the last time she ever contacted me.’
That partner, Jordi, has been a constant in Nanai’s life since they met as teenagers at Trinity Bay State High School in Cairns.
‘We’ve been high school sweet hearts since grade eight, so that’s going on to 11 years now,’ Nanai said.
‘I might have to get down on one knee this year, it’s time to grow up.
‘She’s been my rock in every sense of the word. She has been there with me from the start, before footy. I love her to death.’
Nanai even laughed as he recalled their awkward first kiss.
‘I was very shy back then, I was a shy kid but I kissed her.
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‘But when I turned around to walk away and bumped my head on a window awning … I was pretty nervous in that moment, I wasn’t paying attention to my surroundings.
‘But yeah, that’s where it all began for us.’
Behind the scenes, it was his father who became both parents overnight.
‘I have an incredible father,’ Nanai said.
‘He stepped into both roles and he was both our mum and dad.
‘We are very blessed to have a father like him, he kept on going and kept us going. He raised five kids by himself.
‘I have so much respect for him.’
Now 23, Nanai has already won Dally M honours, represented Queensland in State of Origin and played on the international stage.
But his 2026 season has begun on the sidelines after shoulder reconstruction surgery following an injury suffered playing for Samoa in October.
‘I just thought it was just numbness, it was numb for about two minutes but I just thought it was a stinger,’ Nanai said.
‘I played the whole game with it and then after the game, I just couldn’t feel it and that’s when I was like, ‘oh, something is wrong’.’
‘I got scans when I got to Townsville and they told me it was dislocated and there was a bit of nerve damage.
‘It was all torn apart inside my shoulder and I thought, ‘oh, wait’.
‘It was devastating news to hear, especially when they told me I was going to miss out on going to Las Vegas.
‘But I’m excited to see the boys go over there and play.’
